Lately, you haven’t been able to get a damn thing done. You can’t make decisions to save your life, you don’t have a go-to friend group, or maybe you frequently tell people that you “don’t know what you want to be when you grow up.”

If you could pick one word to describe your life, it would be lost.

It sounds like you need to reconnect with yourself, friend. 

That’s why I’ve pulled out my top 3 questions to know yourself better. 

Top 3 Questions To Get To Know Yourself Better

Let me guess; you’ve tried journaling on your own already. And yet, you still feel like you don’t know who you are. 

Each page feels like an endless stream of consciousness that gets more confusing with every entry. 

There are only 3 questions you need to answer right now. These questions will help you get to the core of what you really want out of life. 

Question #1: What Do I Value?

Let me make this super easy for you— and fun!

Write down 15 traits in which you find value. This can be anything from love to self-expression. Here’s a list of values by author, James Clear, to get you started. 

Once you have your Value 15, put them in 3-5 groups. You’ll want to group them as you see fit. You’ll start to notice a pattern. These groups of values might tell you:

1. How you view the world;
2. What you look for in relationships;
3. How you view yourself;
4. How you view your future self

With defined values, you’ll be better able to see the type of person you want to become. This makes creating an action plan toward your goals more accessible, and your path will start to look clearer. 

Question #2: Three Ways I’m Holding Myself Back

While building confidence within yourself is essential, it will be challenging to do that without acknowledging your weaknesses. 

If you can’t think of anything, try this little exercise:

What do you criticize others about the most?

The thing you criticize others about is likely what you’re most insecure about. For example, if you call people lazy, you probably feel like you don’t properly manage your own time. 

Most call this projection, but it’s also called If You Spot It, You Got It [IYSIYGI]. 

Your insecurities are holding you back. Find three of them and write them down. With these in mind, you can create a new routine to get rid of them and start to feel more confident.

Question #3 What are Five Things I’m Good at?

It can be challenging to define what makes us unique. And while I agree with the sentiment of being multi-passionate, we have to acknowledge the areas where we thrive.

Recognizing where your skills lie is going to eliminate those time-wasters.

For example, let’s say you want to start your own social media marketing business. You’re great with people and sales, but you’re terrible at creating graphics. Instead of wasting time trying to learn this new skill, you can make better use of your time by outsourcing this task or using readily available templates (I love Canva for this).

The sooner you stop wasting time doing things you hate or aren’t good at, the easier it will be to build better habits. You’ll know the difference between an opportunity and a distraction, and you’ll trust yourself to make good decisions. 

If you’re looking for tools to help you balance your goals, download my Free Weekly Planning Calendar at this link.